Long story short:
I am 37. Have tried to get pregnant since I was 23. I've been pregnant once when 33. Found out then miscarried two days later.
My reproductive existence on this planet has basically been a complete failure. My family and friends even stopped asking my husband and I about the status. Although I try, I never really expected to be able to have children. Just kind of an accepted fact.
Went through Bariatric surgery (VSG) in March. Lost 75 lbs. (262 to 186. I am 5'7"). I feel a ton better and am a million times healthier than ever before.
This summer I met two people that swore by acupunture. So I tried it for a month in September/October. I noticed my spotting was less immediately. (I have a fibroid that always causes brown spotting). I liked it, but stopped four weeks ago because I couldn't get an appointment at the right times. I was planning to restart next cycle.
Talked to my OB last month and told her that I get obsessed with the "getting pregnant" process and it's like my head invents symptoms. "I'm a really down to earth person and I just feel absolutely insane..." She laughed and told me she was even crazy during the process, "and I'm a gynecologist!" That made me feel better. She said something that made more difference than anything else has: "pregnancy is hard on your body. If your body senses stress in any way, it won't allow the pregnancy. I want you to do anything and everything you can to relax yourself. Take baths, read, blow off cooking and cleaning a bit. (But use those opk tests!)"
And that's what I did. Baths. Reading. Movies. Game nights with friends.
And something this month was weird. My usual spotting from day 10 to day 28 didn't happen. (I didn't think anything of it). And on day 28 I took my usual "Baby" Dollar General pregnancy test to confirm for the 100th+ time I wasn't pregnant...and the joke was on me. Have kept taking the $1 tests for three days now and the lines are getting darker, which should mean HCG is increasing. I will call the doc tomorrow.
Ladies, if it can happen to me, it can happen to ANYONE. Really.