My story is ordinary and that is why I'm sharing it, because I would have loved to find more just like it when my natural TTC entered its 9th cycle.
- always had regular cycles, 26-28 days
- fertile CM
- 33, DH 45 no known medical conditions
- charting since 2012 (more than 2 years)
- I started with prenatal vitamins 3 months prior to TTC
- picked up regular exersise (aqua fitness)
- paid attention to a healthy diet: lots of water/green tea, lots of green leafy food, bright red veggies, eggs, lentils, you name it. We've got a great take away bistro close to were I work
- I even started taking royal jelly arround cycle 7
- we tryed OPKs
- we tried "toconceive" lubricant via Kindara
- we (I) did the headstand after intercourse
- we did the relaxed atmospheare, dinner date BD
One could say (my DH) I was a bit obsessed. But I never felt obsessed. I felt I wanted to provide the best start possible for baby and it never felt like a chore. 6 cycles (7 months, we left one cycle out due to x-rays) went bye and we were in all good spirits b/c BD really is a lot of fun!
But after 6+ cycles you get ready for the real thing. Every additional cycle that follows, is getting less fun and more worries. Telling DH, in a slightly upset voice, about AF again, prompted rather insensible feedback: Don't stess. Trying to find comfort online did not 100% work because all the sucess stories of 6 or more months TTC contained somthing along the following lines:
- After my first cycle of Clomid...
- After we quitt trying, and came to terms with it...
- when I moved to a different departement
- pregnant during a month I didn't pay attention to my cycle...
- when I was preoccupied with a family issue....
- When my first OBGYN appointement for fertility issues was coming up...
- after 2 miscarriages, ... on our 3rd IVF,....on our 4th IUI,...
There was always something that triggerd it. But what if nothing triggers it? What if I'm simply happy and healthy and whished for a BFP, allowed myself to think about it, wanted it and was good and ready to go? It seemed, only those get pregnant that give up on it, those that had expirienced losses, those that turned to medical help.
What about the healthy couples? Is there ever a healthy couple that suceeds after many, many months of TTC or is it mandatory to have some kind of story?
And then my best friend got pregnant. On her first try. My god. Heavy news to digest but happy of course!
I was extremely excited for them from the start (I knew they stared TTC). If I were upset it was only because of my part in the story. Not wishing she weren't pregnant, but wishing I was.
The feeling that something was off with either me or DH was creeping in again, when it should be so easy as to just do it once and BHAM! With the following cycle, having had the TWW just ahead of me, we got taught differenty. I had some slight spotting at 6/7dpo, already having me fly high through the roof. Followed by the confirmation of two beautiful red lines on 13dpo. Thrilled beyond everything!!!
So there is hope for the "non-story"couple. You also don't need to give up on all the feelings that come along with TTC and surpress them. Have feelings, obsess a little, BFP might sometimes take a little longer but the time comes when all is in order, cells will happy and healthy melt together, tubes will transport it forward, no vibrations will be able to rock that fertilized egg and a baby will start growing in your womb as it has allways meant to be. It has happened to me, it will happen to you!